Hi, I’m Anna Lee. I work in the arts during the day and write at night.
I was born in 1982. I have never been in a serious relationship. Am I lonely? No. Am I desperate? Quite the opposite. Am I sad? Nope, my life is very fulfilling. But the question that has been on my mind my whole adult life is why some people are always single whilst others seem to fall into new relationships with the click of a finger.
In 2016 I started making a documentary exploring this question. I interviewed a diverse mix of perpetually single people and serial monogamists. As I don’t have the resources to finish the documentary, I will use this website to house the interviews and publish my ongoing findings.
This blog will also have articles that offer a fresh perspective on being single. Most articles that I’ve read on the topic are trite, basic (e.g. “How to be happy and single“), old fashioned (e.g. “Reasons why people don’t want to get married marriage“) and seem to be written by people who were single for a minute and decided to become experts on the topic. The media incorrectly portrays single people as either being happy and relationship avoidant or sad, desperate and lonely. It is not that binary.
My intentions are to help people perpetually single people feel more empowered and less alone in their situation, smash stereotypes of single people, pick apart the bullshit advice and theories on love, and ultimately elevate singledom to the same status as romantic relationships.
Sometimes I will write about other things that are on my mind, like racism and other topics that irk me about society, like racism.