You’re on a first date and they’re giving strong vibes that they’re into you. As your date inches towards you, panic sets in. You’re not sure if you’re attracted to them. They don’t quite look like their photo and didn’t laugh at your impersonation of Greg from Succession. How do you keep them at arm’s…
Unexcited about the end of lockdown? You’re not alone.
The end of lockdown is like New Year’s Eve. You’re expected to have fun, feel like a loser if you don’t have plans but would rather stay home than face thousands of people. It’s triggering and a little heartbreaking when I’m asked how I’m enjoying my post-lockdown freedom. Lockdown gave me the type of freedom…
The Desirability Hierarchy
Finding love on a dating app is basically online shopping, where you can filter people by attributes as if they were products: age, height, weight, education, religion, politics, ethnicity. The only difference is that PayPal’s buyers protection doesn’t cover Tinder – you can’t get refunds for time and money wasted on a bad date. It…
Why do relationships come easier to some people?
After a breakup, some of my serial monogamist friends will declare their intentions to be single for a while to reconnect with themselves. This is sometimes viewed as a brave feat, which baffles me since I’ve lived a great life despite being single forever. There should be a “Stay Single in September” fundraiser for people…
Why dating is hell for women over 35
I know people find love at any age, but when I turned 36, the number of matches I received on the dating apps crashed like the stock market during the GFC. To test if it was due to my age, I changed it to 34. Lo and behold, my level of matches returned to normal. …
Annoying stereotypes about single people
My adult life has been full of bucket list moments that the 12 year old me would pinch herself over. For instance, I’ve met Jason Priestly – twice. There are a few things I have not done, that nearly everyone I know has experienced: visit Japan, watch The Wire or be in a serious relationship….
Is dating a numbers game?
By the time lockdown ended in Melbourne in December 2020, I forgot what it felt like to be touched. The quickest way to be reminded is to find someone on a dating app. My only issue is that I hate online dating nearly as much as I hate the alt-right and lines at brunch. But…
The most offensive Tinder openers ever
Skip this if you are easily offended.
That time I walked past a famous racist…
…and didn’t fucking say anything. Ugh.
Is Uncle Roger’s fried rice video problematic?
A well-meaning white friend asked me if Uncle Roger’s viral video was funny or problematic. As my background is Malaysian Chinese, I am authorised to have an opinion on this. Here’s my take.